Relational EMDR Therapy℠

Building the Bridge from Treatment to Transformation

Relational EMDR Therapy℠ considers the therapeutic relationship between therapist and client as a central component for our clients who struggle with low self-esteem, relationships, and self-regulation by actively accompanying them on their journey towards healing.  R-EMDR℠ is a shared experience between therapist and client beyond the resolution of the traumatic memories promoting growth and change. The Self of the therapist plays an integral role in the client's healing journey and is considered an active ingredient in co-creating the conditions that make it possible for our clients to "go there."  So the question we pose as Relational EMDR therapists isn't "is the client ready," but, "are we ready to embark on this journey together?"

In more traditional EMDR, our primary objective is to offer symptom relief.  For many others, however, they need more.  That's where Relational EMDR Therapy℠ comes in.  As an R-EMDR℠ therapist, we focus on helping our clients grow and change into the person they can become now in their lives and be able to thrive, not just survive.

Relational EMDR Therapy ℠

The Self of the Therapist is Integral to the Client's Journey

EMDR training isn't just about knowing what to do, we have to know how to be.  Being present, not just as an observer, but as a witness.  Not just as a support, but as co-regulator of the client's experience as they move through the eye of the storm to get to the other side.  Not just to lance the wound, but to add the balm that helps the wound heal.  It's about being exquisitely attuned to our client's experience, moment to moment, so they have the experience of being with a kind empathic Other.  It's about being in it with them and reflecting our experience of being with them.   Being an R-EMDR℠ therapist requires that we bring a mindful presence as well as the courage we ask of our clients as they approach this unchartered territory with us. The training and consultation process is an ongoing invitation to bring our highest Self to this very important work of helping our clients transform their pain. It's a journey of personal growth for the Relational EMDR therapist that makes it possible for us to "go there" too.

Watch Relational EMDR Therapy℠ Overview on YouTube.

Upcoming Relational EMDR Trainings

December 2024

Master EMDR Training
Coming soon

Relational EMDR Therapy℠ - Examining the Self of the Therapist

Training Program Schedule
December 6, 2024: 11:00 am - 7:00 pm ET
December 7, 2024: 11:00 am - 6:15 pm ET
December 8, 2024: 11:00 am - 4:30 pm ET
Continuing Education Credits
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Here's what a colleague says about Deany and R-EMDR℠

Relational EMDR Therapy℠: The Dance of Attachment took all of us to a higher level regardless of where we were in our work when we started. I am always inspired to learn more with Deany which is not easy for someone like me who is also an instructor and who’s been in the field for over 40 years. R-EMDR assigns a greater respect for the therapeutic relationship and raises the bar for us as therapists to bring our best selves to this work. I love Deany Laliotis, I love Relational EMDR. Relational EMDR Therapy℠ is the future!

Tom Murphy, Ph.D.

Associate Professor, College of Saint Rose
Albany, NY
Tom Murphy, Ph.D.
Attending a Master Retreat as a participant was a professional game changer for me. The opportunity to grow, both in my clinical skills as well as garnering a deeper understanding of myself as a therapist, is priceless. The physical space of the resort and all of its amenities created the perfect environment for learning and relaxing all in one place! The "icing on the cake" were the professional connections I made during this time with other like minded clinicians, some of whom I am still connected with today! This is an investment in yourself and your career that is 100% worth it.

Jennifer Fights , MA, NCC, LCMHC

Trainee & Faculty
Charlotte, NC
Jennifer Fights